ATTENTIVE LISTENING

REACHING AGREEMENT ??

Listening is not the same thing as hearing, one may hear sounds wether they want to or not ,as long as they find themselves in an environment where such sound is being made .

Listening involve the willingness of a person or group of people to agree that he,she or they will listen with rapt attention, without interuption for another person to talk.

Paying attention without interuption, will build confidence and trust between the listener and the person being listened to. Humans spend an average of 70% of their time induged in communication and spend less time paying attention .

Most times people just want to be listened to , not to be given advice or suggetions on what they should talk about or a possible solution to what ever information they share with the listener.

There are cases where a mother is busy with house chores but her child want to share information about an occurence in school.

An agreement should be reached " yes darling, i will listen to you in three minutes ,if you will allow me finish washing the dishes".

Everytime people are together, they make efforts to be listened to, but are seldom listened to because the person who is surposed to be listening is also looking for a chance to also talk.

ATTITUDES THAT PROMOTE EFFECTIVE LISTENING.

People naturally get discouraged when they notice that they are not being listened to attentively .There are attitudes that one need to adopt to be a good listener.

1.APPROVAL: The listener should try their best possible to look at the person who is talking with approval, this will encourage them to talk without being discouraged.

2.RESPECT:A good listener should learn to show respect for the person they are listening to and what they are saying, it takes a lot of courage for people to trust you enough to talk to you , a lot of oppressions and violations that make we humans act irrationally has a lot of disrespect at their core.

DELIGHT: it is important to show the person you are listening to that you are delighted with them.

LOVE:Who doesn't want to be listened to with Love, a good listener should learn how to look at the person they are listening to with Love.This does not mean going into a sexual relationship with them or trying to marry them. Most of us are suffering from inadequate love, it will do the person u are listening to good to know that u love them and want the best for them.This will also help you as a listener to improve your listening skills .we need to learn to let our love out to make the world a better place for us all to inhabit.

Most times people just want to be listened to , not to be given advice or suggetions on what they should talk about or a possible solution to what ever information     they share with the listener

Attentive listening will yeild profound results if it is allowed to work

TAKING TURNS

Everytime people are together, they make efforts to be listened to, but are seldom listened to because the person who is surposed to be listening is looking for a chance to also talk . often times this leads to random talking, where people start talking in no particular order while no one is really paying rapt attention to these conversations.

If people will agree to take turns to listen to each other, "i will agree to listen to you for a while, if you agree to also listen to me "

Effective listening has to do with mindfully hearing and comprehending the meaning of words spoken by another in a conversation.

People need to be listened to. Humans need to listen and pay attention to their environment.

Do you think Listening attentively can help people understand each other better??

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